PUT IT IN THE BOOK

My husband recently asked me with a pout-pout face if I could make time for him.  When I gave him a puzzled look, he went on to say that I was Battlemom to everyone else, but never made it a priority to spend time with him.  I chuckled, and said "Of course, Dear" because I recognized this for what it was.  Simply put, married couple booty call.  

This happens every now and again when schedules don't align well due to work, sickness, kids, fatigue, whatever.  In my reconnaissance missions among the herd I have found that I am not alone and many women get the pout pout face treatment. 

And sometimes the stars align and you have a great "time" together.  

A couple of days passed and I kept thinking about the phrases, "Make some time for me. Battlemom to everyone else." and it occurred to me that this was his issue and if he would just manage his time better and plan ahead we could have more "time" together.  I am a type A personality, so if it is in the schedule it will get done. 

A quick lesson in Type A for those of you who might be confused.  Type A personalities experience a constant sense of urgency and seem to be in a constant struggle against the clock. Often, they quickly become impatient with delays and unproductive time, schedule commitments too tightly, and try to do more than one thing at a time, such as reading while eating or watching television.

Needless to say that when I tried to explain my position to him and asked him to "put it in Battlemom's book" he was none too pleased at my matter-of-fact and what I thought to be a practical approach.  So, back to the drawing board I went to consider my options. 

Next,  I tried to explain that I really wanted to spend more "time" with him, but our biorhythms were different and at night I was done and wanted to sleep, so if he kept aggressively cuddling me I wouldn't be able to sleep and then I would not be productive.   I explained that I was more of a lunchtime kinda girl and would he be able to work that into his schedule since he only works about a mile from home.  I think I got 100% buy in on that one, so we'll see how that works out for everyone.  This way, we can eat and spend "time" together.  Wow, that's productive.

Seriously, what do you do when one of you feels like it and one of you doesn't?  Let's be real, it's never pout-pout that's too tired.  The way I see it you have 4 options; ignore them and go to sleep, grin and bear it, smile and help out Mr. pout-pout, or just settle in and enjoy yourself.  The more you complain, the longer it will take and then you are awake anyway and no one wins.  

Don't lie, ladies.  You know you have been in all those scenarios at one time or another.  Forget about it.  As long as you have an open communication and can have a little bit of humor it's all good.

For fun, try having them leave a $50 on the dresser, get dressed, say thank you and leave.  At least you know you've earned something and it's funny.


Ah, married people problems.